This is a sort of a fact sheet on the internet threat to teens from a “game” that is being talked about quite a bit lately. Name of the “game” is deliberately avoided here because it is opined by well-known psychiatrists that a sort of an anonymous notoriety is what is driving the misguided originators of the “game”. Incidentally, it is also believed that the originators are probably not active with it now, but several clones that are still driving it.
- First and foremost, the “game” can’t be banned! Because it is not a downloadable “game”, not available on any App store or website.
- The sinister modus operandi of snaring gullible teens is by cyber snooping. Children’s browsing habits are watched. Children that exhibit depression, despair, despondency, dejection and such other negative emotions on social media are reached and invited to participate via an exclusive link. Attempts by law enforcement in many countries to get into the game have got identified and they get dropped.
- It starts by simple, but weird tasks that get worse progressively into a final push towards suicide. A task could be to watch a horror movie at 2 in the night!!! On reporting back with a task completed, the child is given more such tasks. These tasks psyche out the already depressed child into worse and more bizarre tasks.
- The immediate family and teachers can make out and they are the first sentinels. Unfortunately, they miss out.
- The child usually spends more time in isolation and will look groggy eyed, may appear worn out and careless in appearance.
- Watch out for signs of injuries on the hands and the body, lack of attention, carelessness in dressing etc.
- Unlike drugs and alcohol, peer pressure does not appear to be a driving force here.
Wonder if any technological solutions via firewalls etc. are possible. A practical solution is possible from parents, older siblings and teachers. Their vigilance can save the child. There are probably many children who many not have gone all the way, but have ended up with a badly bruised psyche.
A more important issue that begs attention is the failing family fabric. The real reason could be a ‘disconnect’ the child has with the family. With more families being nuclear now, the support of the extended family of uncles and aunts is missing. Nothing can really replace the family bond. However, following ‘Band-Aid’ solutions can be considered:
- At home a common internet zone such as sitting room must be declared and enforced strictly. This means no Wi-Fi at home at all. No mobile, tab, laptop, computer in bedrooms. It is important here for parents to lead by example. You could still have a landline in the bedroom to receive emergency calls.
- Parents must find the time and space to invest in the children, ideally a couple of hours in the evenings.
- The family must have at least one major meal together. It could be dinner.
- It is often sufficient to just be with the children and listen to them.
A spiritual education of both children and parents is a sure and durable solution.
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